Comments for 5 Conversations you must have

Comment on Welcome! by BigD

BigD — Thu, 10 May 2012 23:48:05 +0000

I faced the same decision with both my daughters (12 and 14).
After much consideration, reading about HPV (and potential cancers) and talking with my pediatrician, I opted to have them both get the vaccine.
I did not get into detail with my girls about what it’s for, as it relates to sexual immorality. Instead, I focused on the fact that this is just like the vaccine for mumps, whooping cough, etc., and this could protect them from cancer later in life. Why not focus on the positive?
My feeling is: Even if they remain faithful until marriage, can we be assured that either one will end up marrying a man who has done so, too? Everyone slips up in some way, and in this day and age, I think the statistics show there’s a high likelihood my girls’ mates will have had at least some sexual encounter.
Based on that, if I can protect them from potential cancer (after seeing my mom’s been diagnosed 3 times in 30 years), I can’t imagine NOT doing it!
I don’t think a vaccine, framed as a long-term health benefit, will ever loosen my girls’ morals.
Just my reasoning…

Comment on Welcome! by Angelle

Angelle — Wed, 02 May 2012 22:19:01 +0000

Vicki,
I have read both of the 5 Conversations books many times and have also led both studies within my weekly women’s small group. Last week I took my 13 year old daughter in for her yearly checkup where her doctor spoke to me about the HPV vaccine. She shared the benefits of the vaccine and recommended that my daughter and 15 year old son have it before they go to college. I don’t know much about it and wanted to get your opinion. My kids are both committed to purity until marriage. As parents we have open and honest conversations about the benefits of saving sex until marriage with our kids (using your books as our guide). Do you see any reason on earth why I would allow my kids to receive this vaccine?

I look forward to your response,
Angelle
Mandeville, LA

Comment on Tips for having Conversation #4 across the age ranges by 5conversations

5conversations — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:28:25 +0000

I do not feel you would be ruining her innocence by telling her. We all make mistakes and telling her could be a huge teachable moment in her life. You should have no shame about it — you are completely and totally forgiven. Grace be upon you.

Comment on Tips for having Conversation #4 across the age ranges by Karen

Karen — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:17:40 +0000

This is my 2nd marriage. My daughter from my current marriage is almost 9 years old and has no clue that I was married before (no children from that marriage). I am torn on when to tell her. I don’t want to wait too long and have her feel betrayed that I kept this from her (as I have heard a 12 year old lamenting to her friend). But I also don’t want to ruin her innocence. The other fear is that my big mouthed sister will tell her before I have a chance to. If she discovers this has been kept from my daughter, she will thoroughly enjoy breaking the news (we only see her 3-4 times a year). Any thoughts?

Comment on Conversation 3: Dad:2:Dad by Martha

Martha — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 11:51:11 +0000

I highly recommend a wonderful series which helps parents teach kids about God’s design for our sexuality. The main book, How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex (Stanton and Brenna Jones), and the four accompanying books, The Story of Me (ages 3 – 5), Before I Was Born (ages 5 – 8), What’s the Big Deal (ages 8 – 11), and Facing the Facts (ages 11 – 14), are excellent, age appropriate ways to talk to your kids about the birds and the bees and all the sexual dysfunction in our culture (pornography and homosexuality included). The focus for the entire series is that sex in the right context (marriage) is God’s plan for us; outside of this plan lies trouble. I have 6 children and have been using it since the oldest was 5. At the age of almost 16, my daughter intends to keep this gift for her wedding night. My oldest boy, age 11, understands that sex isn’t something for public discussion and, while it’s not his favorite subject (yet) he wants it to be for his wife.

Comment on Conversation 5: Dad:2:Dad by Sermons

Sermons — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:22:29 +0000

These are great principles to teach. My favorite was the one about requiring your sons to stay involved in church even when his peers are not. This teaches a level of commitment and a priority placed on the spiritual aspect of church rather than the social aspect. Blessings!

Comment on Welcome! by Adrienne

Adrienne — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 09:25:09 +0000

I have almost totally consumed this book in two sittings!! I truly believe this book was written as much for me as it was for my daughter. Luckily my Veronica (3 yrs) is still in the age of Disney Princesses and the only other man in her life besides my husband (her father) is Mickey Mouse. My eyes have been opened to the fact that my precious baby will grow up, but I take solace in knowing God has now equipped me with some of the armor I will need in the coming onslaught that is puberty. Thanks for writing Conversations. I don’t have a son (yet, if God willing.), but I have already considered ordering 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son.

Many blessings to you and yours,

Adrienne, TX

Comment on Welcome! by Rhonda Harris

Rhonda Harris — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 02:54:10 +0000

Hello Courtney it was a pleasure reading 5 conversations you must have with your son. I have 1 child his name is Tucker he is 13 years old. We live in Ellaville, Georgia. I have completed the book now i am struggling as to how i am going to discuss some of the topics with my son. It seems easy until you actually get ready to discuss. Please pray with me that the conversations will come natural; that God will put the words in my mouth as to what i should say.Thanks again for your advice. May God Bless you and your family.

Comment on Welcome! by Vicky,

Vicky, — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:06:30 +0000

I have read your book and taken my daughter to your You and Your Girl event. What you teach is so needed
and I appreciate all of your efforts. I would like to ask if you would consider writing a bible study to 5 Conversations books. It would be so helpful to have a workbook to go along with a mother/daughter talk. It would make it come to life for both of us and give me the tools needed to relay the information in a godly but tangible way. Think about it!! I’ve been meaning to ask you this for some time and have even considered writing it myself but I know you would do a much better job compiling it.

god bless,
Christy
Hamilton,OH

Comment on Welcome! by Amy

Amy — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 00:11:45 +0000

Hi Vicki,
I have been following your website since I heard you speak in Naples almost two years ago. I am currently reading the 5 Conversations for daughters and LOVE it!. It is the same as when you spoke- I just agreed with everything you shared. I appreciate your willingness to pray for us! My kids are a daughter age 9, and three sons- ages 7, 5 and 2. I am grateful for your site and your books. God Bless,
Amy